CLARITY · CONFIDENCE · CALM
Tired of Shidduch Dates that Go Nowhere?
Endless suggestions, hard conversations, a lot of waiting. We help you get clear — on your strengths, your blind spots, and what a good match really looks like.
Shidduchim can feel like wandering without a map — endless suggestions, hard conversations, and a lot of waiting. The Shidduch Guy starts by getting to know you — your strengths, your blind spots, and what a genuinely good match actually looks like for you. Then we walk through the entire process together: building your resume, researching profiles, debriefing every date, and staying by your side until you find your zivug.
1:1
Private coaching
2
Signature Courses
200+
Singles Coached
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"You don't need more pressure. You need a clear process"
Guidance rooted in emotional
wisdom and practical strategy
Confidence without confusion
THE SHIFT
FOR ALL SINGLES WHO FEEL STUCK IN THE PROCESS
When dating feels heavy, support should feel steady.
If you're overthinking dates, second-guessing red flags, feeling discouraged after disappointments, or struggling to stay grounded through the ups and downs of shidduchim, this work is built for you.
Clearer thinking
Learn how to sort feelings from facts, identify patterns, and make decisions from a place of wisdom rather than pressure.
Emotional steadiness
Build resilience through disappointment, manage anxiety around dating, and approach each step with more self-trust and calm
Practical direction
Walk away with concrete tools for conversations, decisions, boundaries, and moving through the process with real purpose.
PRIVATE
1:1 Coaching
This isn't just coaching — it's a full partnership through the process. We start by getting an honest, objective picture of who you are and what you're looking for. From your first resume to your final yes, we work together at every step so you're never navigating shidduchim alone.
✓ A deep-dive assessment to understand your strengths, patterns, and what the right fit actually looks like
✓ End-to-end guidance through the entire shidduch process
✓ A realistic, well-crafted profile and resume built together
✓ Researching profiles together to identify strong matches
✓ Debriefing sessions after every date to evaluate and decide
✓ Interactive email support throughout the entire engagement
HOW WE WORK TOGETHER
Two ways to find your footing
Some people want a steady hand alongside every step. Others want a clear framework they can move through on their own. Both are valid — and both are here.
STRUCTURED
Courses
Two signature programs for singles who want a clear, proven framework — one focused on the inner work of staying grounded, the other on practical skills.
✓ Navigating Shidduchim with Bitachon — learn to date from trust rather than fear
✓ Shidduchim Bootcamp — everything nobody taught you about dating: values, compatibility, communication styles and roles.
✓ How to evaluate a prospective match honestly and stay emotionally grounded through the process
✓ Walk away with concrete tools and a real dating strategy
✓ Small live groups so the conversation stays personal and specific
✓ Lifetime access to recordings and course materials
YOUR COACH
Hi, I'm Rabbi Refoel Hershkowitz
I've spent the last several years sitting across from singles in the middle of this process — the ones who are doing everything right and still feel stuck, and the ones who just need a clearer playbook. I started coaching because I kept seeing the same pattern — singles with the right resume, the right references, and the wrong approach. The suggestions weren't the problem. Their expectations, their mindset, and their process were. And those things can change."
My approach blends practical strategy — resumes, calls, dates, decisions — with the harder, quieter work of staying grounded while you wait for something you can't control. I work with men and women, individually and in small groups, and I keep every conversation private.
200+
1:1 & group
Private
Singles coached
Formats available
Every conversation
“I finally stopped spiraling after every date and started seeing things more clearly.”
I felt more grounded, more confident asking the right questions, and less emotionally tossed around by the process.
PRIVATE COACHING CLIENT
Support that feels calming, honest, and deeply useful.
CLIENT REFLECTIONS
“The blend of bitachon and practical dating tools was exactly what I needed.”
I didn't want generic advice. I wanted something that felt emotionally intelligent and rooted in Torah values. This gave me both.
COURSE STUDENT
“I left each session with more peace and a concrete next step.”
It was such a relief to talk to someone who understood the emotional intensity of shidduchim and could help me move forward wisely.
CONSULTATION CLIENT
Singles in the shidduch process — men and women — who feel stuck, overwhelmed, or like they keep hitting the same wall. Whether you've been in the parsha for two years or two months, if something isn't clicking, this work is for you.
We talk through where you actually are — not where you think you should be. That might mean working on your resume, debriefing a date, preparing for a shadchan call, or just untangling what's making the process feel so heavy.
Both courses run as small live cohorts with real-time sessions and a workbook you keep. Recordings are available afterward so you never miss a session.
Book a free discovery call. We'll talk through where you are and figure out together whether 1:1 coaching, a course, or something else fits best.
Completely. Nothing discussed in a session or course is shared with shadchanim, family, or anyone else without your explicit permission.
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FREQUENTLY ASKED QUESTIONS
Let's figure out your next step.
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